Will (my husband), and I flew down with the purpose of supporting our dear friends, Ricky Kej, and Wouter Kellerman as they were nominated for a Grammy Award.
And guess what? THEY WON!
It was very exciting, and I couldn’t be more thrilled for them! I have known Ricky for a couple of years, and Wouter for the past year. Early last year, Ricky and his wife spent a few days in Seattle and I showed them around and we had so much fun. And Wouter is so incredibly nice and has a 100 watt smile all of the time! I can honestly say that these two gentlemen are a couple of the most genuine people I’ve met, and they do music for all the right reasons.
I am beyond happy for them!
Aside from this amazing weekend, I wanted to talk about success and happiness. It’s something that we all want. We ALL desire happiness in various shapes or form.
But there is this thing, especially now days with social media, where if we see a friend have a little bit of success – whether they got a job raise, or lost 50 pounds, or sold a million copies of their new book – we sometimes feel bad about ourselves.
This has been on my mind so much lately – so many instances recently where I’ve seen people hate on others for their good fortune.
I read this article last week that was featured on the Huffington Post entitled “When Her Good News Makes You Feel Bad“.
“I think comparison and competition exist partly because we believe that there is a scarcity of good things in the universe. And that belief makes us kind of small and scared and unable to feel true joy for others or peace for ourselves.”
(Read more in the article).
I will admit, that there have been times in my own music career, when I’ve seen other similar artists get millions of youtube views, or sell a lot more albums than me, or maybe they are just a heckuva lot more famous than myself…and there is a part of me that has momentarily felt bad for myself.
On the flipside, I have even had friends unfriend me before, or not talk to me – and at a later time I come to find out that it was because I was doing well in my music and they weren’t, or that my life was going so much better than their’s and they just couldn’t take seeing the positive status updates. At one point, a friend sent me a personal message telling me that the reason she had backed away from our friendship was because I was always posting about things going well in my life, and it made her feel bad about her’s.
Everyone has their good days and their bad. But we are all different, and we all certainly do not have the same talents. While I might be good at music, I can tell you that I am not very good at crafty things. But instead of dwelling on the fact that I will probably never sew my kids’ Halloween costumes or have a Pinterest home, I remind myself that I can appreciate others who are gifted at those things and concentrate on the things that I am good at.
And above all, HERE’S the thing, everyone:
When you finally understand that there is NOT some cosmic rule that the universe or God makes about how much good fortune there is to go around – and that just because someone else has something good happen to them does NOT mean there is now less of it available…you will find yourself in a place where you can truly and genuinely be happy.
You will be happy for yourself.
You will be happy for your friends (and I mean GENUINELY happy).
You will find hope for yourself.
And you will find a whole lot more love in your heart and see the world differently.
And if you see your friend talking about something wonderful that happened for them? Be happy for them, and then you get out there and work hard for yourself too and just know that it IS possible for you as well.